I've shared my opinion of Facebook before. It's no secret that I find most of the so-called interaction there more than just a little shallow. Now before you get upset, notice I said MOST. I understand not everyone is a meme junky, and I do know some people who actually do post thoughts, beliefs, experiences, and even what's happening in their lives. As for me, I honestly grow very bored of the constant stream of memes and re-shared videos and wish people would choose to be REAL there, rather than reactive.
I love animals--absolutely have a soft heart for them. So when people share funny and cute animal pics and vids I'm all for it. I also love it when my favorite rescue groups share info. I don't mind the occasional recipe or news article. It's not like I want Facebook to just be another Twitter. But the reason I prefer Twitter to FB is because people actually talk to one another, share a lot more than just making announcements about nothing in particular.
Another thing that can sometimes be annoying is when people post a sea of memes and videos, then out of the blue go on a complete tirade about someone else, or even about themselves. And hey, I have NO problem with people who go off about something when most of their posts are literally bits and pieces of their lives, their dreams, goals, rants, etc. But when someone is a 'Memer' and suddenly blasts another person for sharing something real, or blasts another for just being real, I have a huge problem with that. And once someone does this---it's on!
Look, I love memes... they're fun, and they can get a message across with a flare. I LOVE memes, especially the funny and sarcastic/rude ones. ;p But memes aren't my form of communication. I actually have a mind and voice. To me, if one is using only memes to communicate what they think, feel, believe, etc... it mostly just comes across like they're fluent in Ransom Note. Seriously. My choice is to avoid that if I can... to not communicate in that way.
To each his/her own. It's okay if you like memes. It's not my place to tell anyone what to do or not do. I'm simply making a point about Facebook, because I've grown disenchanted with the site and what it inspires most people to do. Well, bored is another word I could use to describe how I feel about FB these days.
If you like memes--meme away! I like them, too, a lot. But I try to keep in-check how much I rely on memes to actually communicate. It just seems like common sense to me.
Now, one thing I would suggest is to research what memes are and where the word 'meme' comes from! I've done this and found the results... very very interesting. Oh, and memes just aren't little pictures with words on them. I don't want to give anything away, so if you have time... look up the history and uses of memes.. and learn when they're NOT a good thing. ;)
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Thursday, February 11, 2016
Friday, February 5, 2016
Raisins Are Just Grapes That Have Lost Their Will To Live.
Why be a raisin when you can be a grape? Seriously, the answer's pretty obvious. Have you ever seen a grape WILLINGLY become a raisin? EXACTLY! That freaking grape is going to fight like hell to maintain the status-quo. You can bet your life on it.
So wtf is that supposed to mean? you ask?....
Absolutely nothing, honey. Absolutely nothing.
Look, I think it's pretty obvious that all of us have different ways of dealing with bad things that come into our lives. No reason to be specific, because one person's 'bad thing' is another's 'rush.' No really, I mean that with the utmost sincerity. Ever heard of the phrase "The risk is the rush?" Well, many people actually LIVE their lives by that and take every single challenge and turn it into a gladiator tournament of which they very well intend to come out the victor! I'm just not one of those people.
Hey, I'm honest! And these days I'm hardly a gladiator.
When things are overwhelming, or if I'm irritated and fed up, well... I indulge in whatever it is I can find to make me laugh. What else is there other than laughing when things totally suck? Exactly! So today, that's kind of what I'm heading for.... it is what it is.
On one hand I could be doing something more productive and worthwhile, but not he other hand---Why? ;p Yeah, I do have days like that, trust me. If I feel down or depressed I can at the very least summon my messed up sense of humor to turn things around. It doesn't ALWAYS work, but I at least have to try.
Now I will say that when I bother EXPRESSING this, er, sense of humor of mine it's not always so well-received. I can totally live with that, btw. ;-) And if I end up offending someone along the way, well, I can't always help that. People can choose to have a sense of humor, choose to keep going and not read what I post (here or anywhere), or let it all hang out and laugh with me. Either way, it's not going to change how I approach a difficult day. If it helps, I'm going to do it. And yes, yes, yes... I do take others' feelings into consideration. But seriously... life is just too damn short to take yourself so seriously all of the time.
Live it up, laugh it up, and make the best out of a sometimes shitty situation!
So wtf is that supposed to mean? you ask?....
Absolutely nothing, honey. Absolutely nothing.
Look, I think it's pretty obvious that all of us have different ways of dealing with bad things that come into our lives. No reason to be specific, because one person's 'bad thing' is another's 'rush.' No really, I mean that with the utmost sincerity. Ever heard of the phrase "The risk is the rush?" Well, many people actually LIVE their lives by that and take every single challenge and turn it into a gladiator tournament of which they very well intend to come out the victor! I'm just not one of those people.
Hey, I'm honest! And these days I'm hardly a gladiator.
When things are overwhelming, or if I'm irritated and fed up, well... I indulge in whatever it is I can find to make me laugh. What else is there other than laughing when things totally suck? Exactly! So today, that's kind of what I'm heading for.... it is what it is.
On one hand I could be doing something more productive and worthwhile, but not he other hand---Why? ;p Yeah, I do have days like that, trust me. If I feel down or depressed I can at the very least summon my messed up sense of humor to turn things around. It doesn't ALWAYS work, but I at least have to try.
Now I will say that when I bother EXPRESSING this, er, sense of humor of mine it's not always so well-received. I can totally live with that, btw. ;-) And if I end up offending someone along the way, well, I can't always help that. People can choose to have a sense of humor, choose to keep going and not read what I post (here or anywhere), or let it all hang out and laugh with me. Either way, it's not going to change how I approach a difficult day. If it helps, I'm going to do it. And yes, yes, yes... I do take others' feelings into consideration. But seriously... life is just too damn short to take yourself so seriously all of the time.
Live it up, laugh it up, and make the best out of a sometimes shitty situation!
Tuesday, January 26, 2016
Family--Beating My Head Against the Wall
To say I come from a dysfunctional family is putting it mildly. Further back than my own memory reaches my siblings have hated me. No, really, I'm not making this up or being dramatic. I don't talk about this much because it brings a lot of sadness and discomfort, anger and resentment rushing to the surface. It's a long story, really, and one with gaps and holes and far-reaching voids where many memories have vanished. It would be oh so much easier had I been adopted, because I know virtually nothing about my family tree, for all the asking I've done over the years, and my parents are both deceased with my having absolutely NO idea where I came from, who my ancestors are, or what my connection is to any of them, if at all.
I was a "Mistake," according to my mother. Now, my relationship and experience with my mom is a story in and of itself, and honestly... I could write a novel here about that. But I'm not going to. Let's just say my mom was disconnected by the time I was born, old enough to be my grandmother, and about as unplugged as a parent could get. It was easier to micromanage and control everything to a damaging degree, rather than create experiences that may have given me a chance and coming out on the other side with less 'issues.' Yes, of course I have issues, and in a way it was my mom's only legacy.
How is it that I could know little of nothing, if anything, about anyone in my family tree? Well, that's easy--when you don't answer questions, share nothing, and ensure that not a single photo, letter, information, etc. gets passed down to you... well, you can't ask a dead person questions. Point blank, not pretty, but absolute truth just the same.
Everything from health/medical information was shared primarily with ONE of the 6 children, and I wasn't the one who got the information. My eldest sister was my mother's confidant, her go-to gal, and there was an almost too-close relationship between my mom and my oldest sister (old enough to be my mom). I spent my entire life on the outside, looking in, and it was that way until my mom passed away (over 20 years ago now).
One sister and I shared a dad, and my other siblings share a father form my mom's 1st and only marriage. Yep, my other sister and I were illegitimate. I could really care less about that, to tell you the truth. My dad was out of the picture when I was 18 months old, and my mother really never spoke of him or his family except for some really scary things, very dark and scary things. Now, it shouldn't surprise anyone that if you scare a kid like that, they're most likely not ever going to ask too many questions. This was the case with me.
The siblings who had a different dad hate me. Just the truth. I was even told that one reason they despised me was that, because we were very poor, they often didn't get as much milk (the example used by one brother and sister) because when it came down to the wire... "The baby" (me) needed it more than they did. I can't speak for what happened when I was a baby. I can't apologize for something that I didn't do on purpose. Yet that resentment carried right into adulthood for my 3 brothers and one sister. BTW, I don't really think of them as brothers and sisters because they've not treated me as such throughout my life. What memories I have of life with them.. isn't good.
I was born very late, with my mom being in her early 40's when she had me. All my siblings (but for one) was grown and gone and with kids of their own, so I pretty much grew up like an only child from about age 10.. when one of my sisters married and moved out (she was 16). We lived in a 3 bedroom house that was eventually condemned, and my mother (a hoarder) used all 3 bedrooms as her hoarding rooms. My sister, the one I share a dad with, had her own room, lots of 'stuff,' decorated walls, record player, records, clothes, and a bike. I didn't have enough toys to even have a toy box, so even in this respect I would find myself living an entirely different life than my sister... and everyone else, actually.
My mom was absent, indifferent, cold most of the time...and even cruel. Skipping over more details than will fit here, I will say that my childhood was very, very odd, and the damage done has proven to be long-lasting. Still, I spent my life longing for a family, a REAL family. Now, coming from a family with 3 brothers and 2 sisters you would think that a strange thing for me to say. Aunts, uncles, cousins... really had nothing to do with me, but for one cousin who, I guess, simply took pity on me. I felt the hostility from them all growing up and didn't understand any of it at all. I felt it, saw it, heard it, and experienced that hostility until we moved away from California. We moved to Colorado because my oldest brother wanted my mom to move there so she could babysit while he and my SIL could work. I was in 8th grade when we moved, and my life didn't get better at all.
Longing for a real family... even to this day....
I would eventually move away from the state of Colorado. My kids and I, to make a long story short as possible, ended up here in the south along the Gulf Coast, where we settled into that strange place (strange to us because we weren't from there) and would end up calling the south "Home." It's the only place that ever felt like home to me. I'm still in the south, but a little further north by a few short hours. But back to "Family"....
When my mom passed, naturally my eldest sister got everything. Very important items my mom was holding for me until I could send for them were divided amongst my brothers and sisters and nephews... or just tossed out as garbage. They did this QUICKLY after my mother died, the day they found out, using the excuse that they were sure that since she was on disability, got a veteran's widow pension, and on Medicare, etc... that the 'government' was going to come in and take her stuff. Yes, LUDICROUS, but that's the excuse they used. And when I arrived for her funeral I wasn't even allowed to so much as have a photo of hers. My eldest sister 'allowed' me to take ONE photo to have it photocopied. My mom had boxes and boxes of photos, btw.
Few actually had anything to say to me at the funeral, or after. It was the same shit, different day.. only worse. A few years later I'd tried once again to make some kind of connection with them, but it ended in a total disaster. I finally came to my senses and realized that I was the only one putting in any effort and that it just simply wasn't worth it. I basically told my oldest brother and his bitchy wife to piss off. And yes, it felt great and was LONG overdue.
In the present....
I know pretty much nothing of my family history, my family tree. My last living grandparent died when I was 2 weeks old, and everyone else was so much older than me that no one really had anything to do with me. My mom wasn't really forthcoming with names, histories, etc., though she did incorporate some names and such in a few fun stories she would tell from time to time. But as a little child I really had no idea if she were making the stuff up/telling fairytales, or if the information was actually true. And after my mom's death... the information about grandparents and such were simply not given to me, even if I asked. Photos, etc.... all given to my sister, who claimed some neighbor stole them, were lost. My brothers, etc. chose badly when they decided to give my sister everything. One person said they thought my sister pawned or sold the framed antique photos of grandparents etc for money. Sadly, it sounds exactly like something she would do.
The cruelty extends into adulthood....
When one of my brothers passed away a few years ago I was told about this AFTER the funeral had taken place, and... I was told on Facebook by a distant cousin. She apparently looked for me on Facebook with ONE purpose in mind, and that was to send me a message that read.. "B**** passed away last week. Thought you'd like to know." I asked "How/why?" which lead to her replaying in the same short, blunt fashion. She then disappeared and didn't say a word ever again. I'd written back a couple of times.. with no response. I'd written my nephew as well, and have been ignored. And this nephew I grew up with and was very close to most of our lives. He's only 2 1/2 years younger than I am.
Cruelty was their favorite weapon, and continues to be so.
The family tree...
As someone who feels completely disconnected from 'family' or blood ties, history... it only stands to reason that I would, eventually, WANT to know something about my own family history. SOMETHING. ANYTHING. So when I decided to look into www.ancestry.com I felt like I was taking a step in the right direction. Maybe this site could help me put the broken pieces together in such a way that I would at least see my connection within the bloodline.
What I've done...
I created an account at www.ancestry.com over a year ago, but since I wasn't really willing to invest any money into getting a full account, I've only spent the smallest bit of time there. But that changed for me about a week ago when I saw a commercial online for Ancestry and a DNA test they offered that shows where your bloodline is from, at least in percentages. A lot of folks have jumped on board for this. Now, one cool thing about the DNA test and having a real account (which I don't yet) is that you can set your family tree to allow links between matches for DNA, region, etc. It's a lot more complicated than that, and they have a video that explains it all, but it's a really neat tool and a good place to start. But what about for someone like me?....
DNA results may be the only thing I really get out of this, and that's okay. It's something, isn't it? It would be nice to know for sure what ethnicities are involved in my family tree, even if I don't have any family history to see how the pieces fit. I sent my kit off today and, from what I understand, it will take about a week for the results to get uploaded online. Knowing it's not going to give me complete picture of my family tree... I'm still okay, and I'm fairly patient where that's concerned.
So what's my freaking point here?
My point is this: If you have information about family history (names, places, etc) please share them with your kids. Don't leave them in the dark to spend the rest of their lives wondering who they really are (history wise), where they're from, what their history is, etc. It's really not a good or easy thing to live with when you have no idea about those things. Don't do that to your kids, seriously.
My desire to know more about my family history/ancestry runs deeper than the hurt from the disconnection from my actual 'family members.' I rarely use the word 'family' when speaking about them. They're blood relatives to me, but nothing more.
I have to wonder if I'm beating my head against the wall trying to piece together a family tree I know nothing about. Names, birth dates, etc. are required to even do searches or make connections. What little information I have really just stops at my mom, and my dad I have only a name and birth date. It's really like hitting a brick wall. But is it worth it, all of this effort? I don't know.
I really just don't know. The one thing I DO know is that I'm left with the question: Will I ever fully understand myself in connection to history and ancestry?
*shrugs*
I was a "Mistake," according to my mother. Now, my relationship and experience with my mom is a story in and of itself, and honestly... I could write a novel here about that. But I'm not going to. Let's just say my mom was disconnected by the time I was born, old enough to be my grandmother, and about as unplugged as a parent could get. It was easier to micromanage and control everything to a damaging degree, rather than create experiences that may have given me a chance and coming out on the other side with less 'issues.' Yes, of course I have issues, and in a way it was my mom's only legacy.
How is it that I could know little of nothing, if anything, about anyone in my family tree? Well, that's easy--when you don't answer questions, share nothing, and ensure that not a single photo, letter, information, etc. gets passed down to you... well, you can't ask a dead person questions. Point blank, not pretty, but absolute truth just the same.
Everything from health/medical information was shared primarily with ONE of the 6 children, and I wasn't the one who got the information. My eldest sister was my mother's confidant, her go-to gal, and there was an almost too-close relationship between my mom and my oldest sister (old enough to be my mom). I spent my entire life on the outside, looking in, and it was that way until my mom passed away (over 20 years ago now).
One sister and I shared a dad, and my other siblings share a father form my mom's 1st and only marriage. Yep, my other sister and I were illegitimate. I could really care less about that, to tell you the truth. My dad was out of the picture when I was 18 months old, and my mother really never spoke of him or his family except for some really scary things, very dark and scary things. Now, it shouldn't surprise anyone that if you scare a kid like that, they're most likely not ever going to ask too many questions. This was the case with me.
The siblings who had a different dad hate me. Just the truth. I was even told that one reason they despised me was that, because we were very poor, they often didn't get as much milk (the example used by one brother and sister) because when it came down to the wire... "The baby" (me) needed it more than they did. I can't speak for what happened when I was a baby. I can't apologize for something that I didn't do on purpose. Yet that resentment carried right into adulthood for my 3 brothers and one sister. BTW, I don't really think of them as brothers and sisters because they've not treated me as such throughout my life. What memories I have of life with them.. isn't good.
I was born very late, with my mom being in her early 40's when she had me. All my siblings (but for one) was grown and gone and with kids of their own, so I pretty much grew up like an only child from about age 10.. when one of my sisters married and moved out (she was 16). We lived in a 3 bedroom house that was eventually condemned, and my mother (a hoarder) used all 3 bedrooms as her hoarding rooms. My sister, the one I share a dad with, had her own room, lots of 'stuff,' decorated walls, record player, records, clothes, and a bike. I didn't have enough toys to even have a toy box, so even in this respect I would find myself living an entirely different life than my sister... and everyone else, actually.
My mom was absent, indifferent, cold most of the time...and even cruel. Skipping over more details than will fit here, I will say that my childhood was very, very odd, and the damage done has proven to be long-lasting. Still, I spent my life longing for a family, a REAL family. Now, coming from a family with 3 brothers and 2 sisters you would think that a strange thing for me to say. Aunts, uncles, cousins... really had nothing to do with me, but for one cousin who, I guess, simply took pity on me. I felt the hostility from them all growing up and didn't understand any of it at all. I felt it, saw it, heard it, and experienced that hostility until we moved away from California. We moved to Colorado because my oldest brother wanted my mom to move there so she could babysit while he and my SIL could work. I was in 8th grade when we moved, and my life didn't get better at all.
Longing for a real family... even to this day....
I would eventually move away from the state of Colorado. My kids and I, to make a long story short as possible, ended up here in the south along the Gulf Coast, where we settled into that strange place (strange to us because we weren't from there) and would end up calling the south "Home." It's the only place that ever felt like home to me. I'm still in the south, but a little further north by a few short hours. But back to "Family"....
When my mom passed, naturally my eldest sister got everything. Very important items my mom was holding for me until I could send for them were divided amongst my brothers and sisters and nephews... or just tossed out as garbage. They did this QUICKLY after my mother died, the day they found out, using the excuse that they were sure that since she was on disability, got a veteran's widow pension, and on Medicare, etc... that the 'government' was going to come in and take her stuff. Yes, LUDICROUS, but that's the excuse they used. And when I arrived for her funeral I wasn't even allowed to so much as have a photo of hers. My eldest sister 'allowed' me to take ONE photo to have it photocopied. My mom had boxes and boxes of photos, btw.
Few actually had anything to say to me at the funeral, or after. It was the same shit, different day.. only worse. A few years later I'd tried once again to make some kind of connection with them, but it ended in a total disaster. I finally came to my senses and realized that I was the only one putting in any effort and that it just simply wasn't worth it. I basically told my oldest brother and his bitchy wife to piss off. And yes, it felt great and was LONG overdue.
In the present....
I know pretty much nothing of my family history, my family tree. My last living grandparent died when I was 2 weeks old, and everyone else was so much older than me that no one really had anything to do with me. My mom wasn't really forthcoming with names, histories, etc., though she did incorporate some names and such in a few fun stories she would tell from time to time. But as a little child I really had no idea if she were making the stuff up/telling fairytales, or if the information was actually true. And after my mom's death... the information about grandparents and such were simply not given to me, even if I asked. Photos, etc.... all given to my sister, who claimed some neighbor stole them, were lost. My brothers, etc. chose badly when they decided to give my sister everything. One person said they thought my sister pawned or sold the framed antique photos of grandparents etc for money. Sadly, it sounds exactly like something she would do.
The cruelty extends into adulthood....
When one of my brothers passed away a few years ago I was told about this AFTER the funeral had taken place, and... I was told on Facebook by a distant cousin. She apparently looked for me on Facebook with ONE purpose in mind, and that was to send me a message that read.. "B**** passed away last week. Thought you'd like to know." I asked "How/why?" which lead to her replaying in the same short, blunt fashion. She then disappeared and didn't say a word ever again. I'd written back a couple of times.. with no response. I'd written my nephew as well, and have been ignored. And this nephew I grew up with and was very close to most of our lives. He's only 2 1/2 years younger than I am.
Cruelty was their favorite weapon, and continues to be so.
The family tree...
As someone who feels completely disconnected from 'family' or blood ties, history... it only stands to reason that I would, eventually, WANT to know something about my own family history. SOMETHING. ANYTHING. So when I decided to look into www.ancestry.com I felt like I was taking a step in the right direction. Maybe this site could help me put the broken pieces together in such a way that I would at least see my connection within the bloodline.
What I've done...
I created an account at www.ancestry.com over a year ago, but since I wasn't really willing to invest any money into getting a full account, I've only spent the smallest bit of time there. But that changed for me about a week ago when I saw a commercial online for Ancestry and a DNA test they offered that shows where your bloodline is from, at least in percentages. A lot of folks have jumped on board for this. Now, one cool thing about the DNA test and having a real account (which I don't yet) is that you can set your family tree to allow links between matches for DNA, region, etc. It's a lot more complicated than that, and they have a video that explains it all, but it's a really neat tool and a good place to start. But what about for someone like me?....
DNA results may be the only thing I really get out of this, and that's okay. It's something, isn't it? It would be nice to know for sure what ethnicities are involved in my family tree, even if I don't have any family history to see how the pieces fit. I sent my kit off today and, from what I understand, it will take about a week for the results to get uploaded online. Knowing it's not going to give me complete picture of my family tree... I'm still okay, and I'm fairly patient where that's concerned.
So what's my freaking point here?
My point is this: If you have information about family history (names, places, etc) please share them with your kids. Don't leave them in the dark to spend the rest of their lives wondering who they really are (history wise), where they're from, what their history is, etc. It's really not a good or easy thing to live with when you have no idea about those things. Don't do that to your kids, seriously.
My desire to know more about my family history/ancestry runs deeper than the hurt from the disconnection from my actual 'family members.' I rarely use the word 'family' when speaking about them. They're blood relatives to me, but nothing more.
I have to wonder if I'm beating my head against the wall trying to piece together a family tree I know nothing about. Names, birth dates, etc. are required to even do searches or make connections. What little information I have really just stops at my mom, and my dad I have only a name and birth date. It's really like hitting a brick wall. But is it worth it, all of this effort? I don't know.
I really just don't know. The one thing I DO know is that I'm left with the question: Will I ever fully understand myself in connection to history and ancestry?
*shrugs*
Monday, January 18, 2016
Back on Track: Let the Spewings Commence
Now that I've gotten a few things off my chest today (lol), I can take some time to be randomly random. Ha! I guess I'm just not feeling right today and am going with where this off-feeling takes me. Why not? It's not like I have a big day planned or anything.
Okay, so to tell you the truth I'm fighting the urge to go lay down and take a nap. Naps in my case are a VERY bad idea, because it just invites insomnia come nighttime, something that I have to deal with even with very little sleep. And guess what happens when someone loses a lot of sleep on a regular, ongoing basis? For starters, your perception of things become a bit warped. Yeah. It's true. I mean, sleep deprivation is one of the seven altered states.
At the moment things feel completely 'off' to me. I'll eventually go watch tv, because it's a fabulous distraction when I need one, but I won't say I'm looking forward to it. Why? Well, because I have things to do, and it just feels wrong to sit there staring at the tv set when I could be doing something that would make my day more productive. That is, IF my body would ALLOW me to do something, anything at all but be in a sitting or reclining position; something I'm not particularly fond of, btw.
So this is how it looks when my brain is as tired as my body. No, really. It is. Coherent thought goes right down the toilet, and in its place comes the ramblings of an extremely tired mind. While on one hand it's frustrating for me to not get my point across, to not know where the hell I'm going with any of this, on the other hand.. it's funny as hell. Well, I'll look back on this post on a good day, snicker a little, shake my head, and laugh at the attempt to make some sense. ;p
And this, in effect, dear friends.. is the crap I spew. haha. Hey, if I can laugh about the bad days, then I really think I've got a good chance of surviving the weirdness after all.
...more spewings to come...when my brain is back on board again. ;)
Okay, so to tell you the truth I'm fighting the urge to go lay down and take a nap. Naps in my case are a VERY bad idea, because it just invites insomnia come nighttime, something that I have to deal with even with very little sleep. And guess what happens when someone loses a lot of sleep on a regular, ongoing basis? For starters, your perception of things become a bit warped. Yeah. It's true. I mean, sleep deprivation is one of the seven altered states.
At the moment things feel completely 'off' to me. I'll eventually go watch tv, because it's a fabulous distraction when I need one, but I won't say I'm looking forward to it. Why? Well, because I have things to do, and it just feels wrong to sit there staring at the tv set when I could be doing something that would make my day more productive. That is, IF my body would ALLOW me to do something, anything at all but be in a sitting or reclining position; something I'm not particularly fond of, btw.
So this is how it looks when my brain is as tired as my body. No, really. It is. Coherent thought goes right down the toilet, and in its place comes the ramblings of an extremely tired mind. While on one hand it's frustrating for me to not get my point across, to not know where the hell I'm going with any of this, on the other hand.. it's funny as hell. Well, I'll look back on this post on a good day, snicker a little, shake my head, and laugh at the attempt to make some sense. ;p
And this, in effect, dear friends.. is the crap I spew. haha. Hey, if I can laugh about the bad days, then I really think I've got a good chance of surviving the weirdness after all.
...more spewings to come...when my brain is back on board again. ;)
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The Dangers of Being Honest
Honesty has become a vulnerability. People who speak their minds honesty are often faced with ridicule and contempt by those who have opposing views. I believe most of us get this and have experienced that ridicule first-hand. While a valuable lesson, that ridicule and backlash, while it reminds us how we should choose our words carefully, we must always remember that honesty is STILL the best policy, and that lying by omission... is STILL lying.
A friend who reads all my blogs, and I mean every entry (bless her heart), sent me a message and said, "I don't know how you do it. Aren't you scared of haters bashing you?" Well, no.. I'm not. I refuse to allow haters and bullies to dictate how I think, behave, react or don't react to any given situation. I mean, once you give away your power it's really hard to get it back. It's best not to give your power to another to begin with.
I've relinquished my power to haters and bullies in my past. My entire life, up until about 3 years ago, I learned to suppress my feelings, to bury anger deep, to hide the foundations of any feelings I had. Not to say I wasn't emotional, because BOY was I ever. I wore my emotions on my sleeve for the entire world to see. But when it came down to recognizing for more than a second what created those emotions, and when it came down to standing up for myself, that's where everything fell apart, and it did so because I was taught early on that having those emotions.. was a bad thing.
I no longer think that, and because I no longer think that I FEEL more intensely those emotions I used to keep in check to the point of denial. It's been a liberating process, being able to access feelings like that. I don't have to apologize to anyone for having those feelings, and I reserve apologies now for when I HANDLE those feelings badly; thankfully this is seldom an issue. So when someone writes me and is worried because I allowed the emotions and thoughts etc to flow freely on the pages here, or in my other blogs, I DO take into consideration what they're saying, but I also take into consideration that I've come a very long way to not only reach my feelings and access them more fully than before, but that it's MORE than OKAY to express them.
There is a danger to being honest. There's a danger in speaking freely at times. There's a risk that you won't please one person or another person, etc. Not everyone is going to like what I'm saying. But so what? There will be those who DO, and it's with those people that the unspoken camaraderie is expressed and felt. What I say, what I express, actually has helped people, and it's certainly helped me. So I've no intention of changing this, just so everyone here is clear on where I stand.
I will accept the dangers of honesty and continue to be honest, sometimes bluntly, and I will take into consideration the edges honesty has by definition. I'm not out to hurt anyone, and this is why I name NO names here as to whom I'm speaking about.. IF I'm speaking about someone else. It occurs to me that having to say this means I'm still aware, very aware, of the risks I take. But it doesn't matter.. I'm not here to write fiction or make things look better or worse than they actually are.
I'm going to be myself, haters and bullies be-damned. No one should give up pieces of themselves for others to devour, and that's exactly what you do when you censor your words, thoughts, and feelings in a place or forum where you're there to speak your mind. People can choose to read or not read, listen or not listen. Actions are a choice.
So to my friend, though we've spoken about this at length--I hear you. And I'm okay. I'm okay with what any hater or bully thinks about me, because I don't answer to them. And.. you shouldn't either.
A friend who reads all my blogs, and I mean every entry (bless her heart), sent me a message and said, "I don't know how you do it. Aren't you scared of haters bashing you?" Well, no.. I'm not. I refuse to allow haters and bullies to dictate how I think, behave, react or don't react to any given situation. I mean, once you give away your power it's really hard to get it back. It's best not to give your power to another to begin with.
I've relinquished my power to haters and bullies in my past. My entire life, up until about 3 years ago, I learned to suppress my feelings, to bury anger deep, to hide the foundations of any feelings I had. Not to say I wasn't emotional, because BOY was I ever. I wore my emotions on my sleeve for the entire world to see. But when it came down to recognizing for more than a second what created those emotions, and when it came down to standing up for myself, that's where everything fell apart, and it did so because I was taught early on that having those emotions.. was a bad thing.
I no longer think that, and because I no longer think that I FEEL more intensely those emotions I used to keep in check to the point of denial. It's been a liberating process, being able to access feelings like that. I don't have to apologize to anyone for having those feelings, and I reserve apologies now for when I HANDLE those feelings badly; thankfully this is seldom an issue. So when someone writes me and is worried because I allowed the emotions and thoughts etc to flow freely on the pages here, or in my other blogs, I DO take into consideration what they're saying, but I also take into consideration that I've come a very long way to not only reach my feelings and access them more fully than before, but that it's MORE than OKAY to express them.
There is a danger to being honest. There's a danger in speaking freely at times. There's a risk that you won't please one person or another person, etc. Not everyone is going to like what I'm saying. But so what? There will be those who DO, and it's with those people that the unspoken camaraderie is expressed and felt. What I say, what I express, actually has helped people, and it's certainly helped me. So I've no intention of changing this, just so everyone here is clear on where I stand.
I will accept the dangers of honesty and continue to be honest, sometimes bluntly, and I will take into consideration the edges honesty has by definition. I'm not out to hurt anyone, and this is why I name NO names here as to whom I'm speaking about.. IF I'm speaking about someone else. It occurs to me that having to say this means I'm still aware, very aware, of the risks I take. But it doesn't matter.. I'm not here to write fiction or make things look better or worse than they actually are.
I'm going to be myself, haters and bullies be-damned. No one should give up pieces of themselves for others to devour, and that's exactly what you do when you censor your words, thoughts, and feelings in a place or forum where you're there to speak your mind. People can choose to read or not read, listen or not listen. Actions are a choice.
So to my friend, though we've spoken about this at length--I hear you. And I'm okay. I'm okay with what any hater or bully thinks about me, because I don't answer to them. And.. you shouldn't either.
Sunday, January 17, 2016
It Begins the Same Every Day
....And it ends pretty much the same way. Predictability to this degree is less than optimal for a full life. Maybe that sounds a bit over-the-top, but it's the truth just the same. And let's be clear here, I'm not speaking of the predictability that's needed in most important circumstances, but the kind that you recognize and expect because of history. If you have a predictable outcome, what's the incentive to do anything any differently?
My attempts to affect change have fallen short of anything I would ever dare call success. When problems or difficulty arises and the outcome is always the same, redirecting my approach to the issue just makes perfect sense. Let's try something different; this is what I tell myself, and it's what I do, and somehow it still seems to make little to no difference whatsoever. So then, what's the solution?
Maybe it's time I implement a little indifference myself, invoke the goddess ignora as it were and use my resources, whatever they may be at the time, to implement the change I want in my life. Yeah, sure.. I know that sounds like the better place to have started, but there's this little thing called 'communication' that always seems to get in the way.
Will it FEEL different if I do something new?
Has it to-date, you know, FELT different? No. Not really. And why would it matter what something FEELS like? Because FEELING is everything. FEELING is what stops us, encourages us, demands, suggests, and invokes an action or reaction to any inner or outside stimulus. Get your mind out of the gutter. ;) In all seriousness, unless you're a complete sociopath who feels nothing at all, this should make sense.
Okay, so what is it I FEEL then? Anxiety. Mild anger. Disappointment. Bewilderment, and... wait. Is this what I'm really referring to when I say FEELING? Maybe not, because that list is really more the EFFECTS of those feelings than the actual feelings themselves. Well damn... that just got complicated, didn't it?
So what I'm basically dealing with here is changing MY behavior and the way I look at things so as not to have to constantly fight for what's right, or to be heard, or to even be respected. Respect will still be a HUGE deal for me, of course, because that's part of what and who I am. But I'm not going to allow disrespect to alter how I FEEL---as just one example.
I realized last night that I'm still in that place where I allow my health and my body to be torn down by the treatment of another towards me. I can't keep doing that if I want to heal, to be healthy. I just cannot allow that to continue.
The next step is... to break free of those chains that bind me, the ones I was shackled with as a child, carried into adulthood, and allowed to be manipulated by someone I'm with.
....I've got the 'what,' and now I need the 'how.' That's at least something.
My attempts to affect change have fallen short of anything I would ever dare call success. When problems or difficulty arises and the outcome is always the same, redirecting my approach to the issue just makes perfect sense. Let's try something different; this is what I tell myself, and it's what I do, and somehow it still seems to make little to no difference whatsoever. So then, what's the solution?
Maybe it's time I implement a little indifference myself, invoke the goddess ignora as it were and use my resources, whatever they may be at the time, to implement the change I want in my life. Yeah, sure.. I know that sounds like the better place to have started, but there's this little thing called 'communication' that always seems to get in the way.
Will it FEEL different if I do something new?
Has it to-date, you know, FELT different? No. Not really. And why would it matter what something FEELS like? Because FEELING is everything. FEELING is what stops us, encourages us, demands, suggests, and invokes an action or reaction to any inner or outside stimulus. Get your mind out of the gutter. ;) In all seriousness, unless you're a complete sociopath who feels nothing at all, this should make sense.
Okay, so what is it I FEEL then? Anxiety. Mild anger. Disappointment. Bewilderment, and... wait. Is this what I'm really referring to when I say FEELING? Maybe not, because that list is really more the EFFECTS of those feelings than the actual feelings themselves. Well damn... that just got complicated, didn't it?
So what I'm basically dealing with here is changing MY behavior and the way I look at things so as not to have to constantly fight for what's right, or to be heard, or to even be respected. Respect will still be a HUGE deal for me, of course, because that's part of what and who I am. But I'm not going to allow disrespect to alter how I FEEL---as just one example.
I realized last night that I'm still in that place where I allow my health and my body to be torn down by the treatment of another towards me. I can't keep doing that if I want to heal, to be healthy. I just cannot allow that to continue.
The next step is... to break free of those chains that bind me, the ones I was shackled with as a child, carried into adulthood, and allowed to be manipulated by someone I'm with.
....I've got the 'what,' and now I need the 'how.' That's at least something.
Wednesday, January 13, 2016
For those who've left comments here.... THANK YOU!
So it seems comment notifications haven't been working in a VERY long time, so if you've left comments and I didn't reply please know it's because I didn't realize anyone had left any. Blogger seems to have fixed this.. for now.
I appreciate everyone's feedback, more than I can find words to describe really. I guess, with the exception of those I know 'in person,' or those who contact me via social networking or email, etc., I often wonder if I'm just shouting or whispering into the wind here.
It was my hope that sharing my own experiences would help others, or make people laugh, or think... well, then it's all well worth it, especially with regards to "This Free Spirit," which was created to help work my way to a healing place post-abuse and hoping to help others along the way know they're not alone.
So again, if you've left comments on any of the entries on any of the blogs and I haven't respond.. I will. And hopefully Blogger's notification system re comments will continue to work!
Blessings and thanks to all of you...
I appreciate everyone's feedback, more than I can find words to describe really. I guess, with the exception of those I know 'in person,' or those who contact me via social networking or email, etc., I often wonder if I'm just shouting or whispering into the wind here.
It was my hope that sharing my own experiences would help others, or make people laugh, or think... well, then it's all well worth it, especially with regards to "This Free Spirit," which was created to help work my way to a healing place post-abuse and hoping to help others along the way know they're not alone.
So again, if you've left comments on any of the entries on any of the blogs and I haven't respond.. I will. And hopefully Blogger's notification system re comments will continue to work!
Blessings and thanks to all of you...
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Human Experiment No.1: Why liberals bug the crap out of me.
I'm not a liberal. I USED to be, or thought I was anyway. But basically it all just rather boiled down to my not really understanding the position I was taking while subscribing to that... whateveritis. And yeah, I did get it eventually, once I was able to sit and talk with someone who not only made calm, perfect sense, but helped me understand a few things and did so in a way that wasn't insulting.
In the past, when a conservative friend or family member tried to sway me on the issue, most of the time they failed epically, because to be honest.. I simply stop hearing people when they hurl (haha not a typo) insults directly at me as a person. I mean, really? Who honestly think that works? Well, I'm here to say.. it doesn't.
Fast-forward to present-day...
Now, I'm not saying either side is perfect, because I've met some SERIOUSLY hateful conservatives in my day. But within this election time I've been seeing some pretty nasty stuff from the left that reaches across the board; Meaning that it's a solid 100% thus far. Why?
Who cares, really. None of this has to have anything at all to do about elections and choosing candidates, etc. Because we're talking about PEOPLE here. People don't CHANGE during election times, they just begin to show their true colors and can't seem to reign it in very well.
Am I innocent in this? HELL NO. I'm honest, though, and I will admit that the liberal mindset isn't based on anything rational. Yep, that's my opinion. Doesn't mean I hate the person, but it does mean I hate their agendas and what they stand for. But no worries, they pretty much hate me (a conservative) even more. So I guess you can say it balances itself out.
My biggest problem these days with libs is that they love to perpetuate lies and spread them like some political venereal disease. As for me, I practice safe voting and am not in any danger of contracting 'liberalism.' It's all smoke and mirrors anyway, and the people standing with their hand out is going to find themselves still standing with their hand out because NONE of the people they think are going to give them "free" stuff aren't going to give them shit.
"Free stuff." That old geezer Bernie Sanders, socialist whack-job, is one sad example of what liberals seem to gravitate towards. He's like the cantankerous old fart who lives in the weird house at the end of the street, the one that scowls at people behind their backs. He brings nothing but empty promises to the table, and those libs eat that stuff up.
Sorry Bernie, but I'm not 'feeling the Bern' and never will.
Wether on FB or Twitter, the liberal craziness is everywhere. Sorry, but not sorry.. anyone who still thinks Barrack Hussein Obama is a good president, or even a good guy is completely off their rocker. Now, mind you.. I actually voted for him the first time. Why? Because I was in a terrible place in my life, very sick and with no health insurance, struggling to maintain my life with failing health and thought maybe, just maybe this guy was telling the truth. Maybe, I thought, maybe I will get health insurance and get my life back. Nope. I was completely wrong.
I also had a friend at the time who basically sold me on Obama. While the rational part of the US, the conservatives, were all saying no one knows anything about Obama and he was bad news.. I still didn't get it. My friend worked tirelessly to win me over to his way of thinking. My friend, btw, I rarely EVER talk to now since he got involved with the Occupy movement. He completely slipped off the map when that happened, and he assimilated himself within a VERY crazy group of people, all who are about as 'militant' as it gets while screaming to the world that they're "tolerant." Don't EVEN get me started on that.
I'm a Trump supporter. I'm not going to go into all they why's and wherefores, because it would take too damn long. I've watched DT's career for so long and know enough about his past, what he's done to help people throughout his life, and.. so much more.. that I know he's the right guy. Not only that, but I'm ELATED he has opened people's eyes to the dangers of the PC mindset. I like his bluntness and know that this is the way he's been throughout his career and that it's not an act. This is really the way he is, and like so many conservatives out there... I LOVE that about him. His books, past interviews from WAY back, are all consistent to how he thinks and what he believes, etc. The man loves this country. He used to be a democrat, and over the years has changed his view. THIS is supposed to be a GOOD thing, yet the libs and liberal slanted media all tried to take him down about this one fact, a fact he didn't lie about or hide in the least. I mean, what's wrong with people? Well, Donald Trump isn't an establishment guy and that scares the living daylights out of the media (most), and terrifies libs because they think they won't get 'free' stuff anymore.
Oh, and btw.. there is no such thing as "free." Someone pays, and it's the working class who does so. Whether you make a lot of money, or little money, if you're a millionaire or your income is in the middle-class range.. YOU are the one who pays for the so-called 'free stuff' that Sanders and Clinton (she's a damn criminal) promises.
Okay, enough about that. My point is simple this: Liberals are rarely ever honest, rarely (if ever) do their own research to obtain facts before they go on the attack. I have no respect for people like that, and I never ever will.
One last thing.. SO many libs have switched parties because of Donald Trump. People are finally seeing the corruption from the left and aren't okay with it anymore. There's more to their switch, but I'm not going to go into all of that.
So... how about that for stepping across the threshold? I'm not afraid to talk about controversial topics, so put on your big girl/big boy panties and hang on! Or don't wear any panties at all...
In the past, when a conservative friend or family member tried to sway me on the issue, most of the time they failed epically, because to be honest.. I simply stop hearing people when they hurl (haha not a typo) insults directly at me as a person. I mean, really? Who honestly think that works? Well, I'm here to say.. it doesn't.
Fast-forward to present-day...
Now, I'm not saying either side is perfect, because I've met some SERIOUSLY hateful conservatives in my day. But within this election time I've been seeing some pretty nasty stuff from the left that reaches across the board; Meaning that it's a solid 100% thus far. Why?
Who cares, really. None of this has to have anything at all to do about elections and choosing candidates, etc. Because we're talking about PEOPLE here. People don't CHANGE during election times, they just begin to show their true colors and can't seem to reign it in very well.
Am I innocent in this? HELL NO. I'm honest, though, and I will admit that the liberal mindset isn't based on anything rational. Yep, that's my opinion. Doesn't mean I hate the person, but it does mean I hate their agendas and what they stand for. But no worries, they pretty much hate me (a conservative) even more. So I guess you can say it balances itself out.
My biggest problem these days with libs is that they love to perpetuate lies and spread them like some political venereal disease. As for me, I practice safe voting and am not in any danger of contracting 'liberalism.' It's all smoke and mirrors anyway, and the people standing with their hand out is going to find themselves still standing with their hand out because NONE of the people they think are going to give them "free" stuff aren't going to give them shit.
"Free stuff." That old geezer Bernie Sanders, socialist whack-job, is one sad example of what liberals seem to gravitate towards. He's like the cantankerous old fart who lives in the weird house at the end of the street, the one that scowls at people behind their backs. He brings nothing but empty promises to the table, and those libs eat that stuff up.
Sorry Bernie, but I'm not 'feeling the Bern' and never will.
Wether on FB or Twitter, the liberal craziness is everywhere. Sorry, but not sorry.. anyone who still thinks Barrack Hussein Obama is a good president, or even a good guy is completely off their rocker. Now, mind you.. I actually voted for him the first time. Why? Because I was in a terrible place in my life, very sick and with no health insurance, struggling to maintain my life with failing health and thought maybe, just maybe this guy was telling the truth. Maybe, I thought, maybe I will get health insurance and get my life back. Nope. I was completely wrong.
I also had a friend at the time who basically sold me on Obama. While the rational part of the US, the conservatives, were all saying no one knows anything about Obama and he was bad news.. I still didn't get it. My friend worked tirelessly to win me over to his way of thinking. My friend, btw, I rarely EVER talk to now since he got involved with the Occupy movement. He completely slipped off the map when that happened, and he assimilated himself within a VERY crazy group of people, all who are about as 'militant' as it gets while screaming to the world that they're "tolerant." Don't EVEN get me started on that.
I'm a Trump supporter. I'm not going to go into all they why's and wherefores, because it would take too damn long. I've watched DT's career for so long and know enough about his past, what he's done to help people throughout his life, and.. so much more.. that I know he's the right guy. Not only that, but I'm ELATED he has opened people's eyes to the dangers of the PC mindset. I like his bluntness and know that this is the way he's been throughout his career and that it's not an act. This is really the way he is, and like so many conservatives out there... I LOVE that about him. His books, past interviews from WAY back, are all consistent to how he thinks and what he believes, etc. The man loves this country. He used to be a democrat, and over the years has changed his view. THIS is supposed to be a GOOD thing, yet the libs and liberal slanted media all tried to take him down about this one fact, a fact he didn't lie about or hide in the least. I mean, what's wrong with people? Well, Donald Trump isn't an establishment guy and that scares the living daylights out of the media (most), and terrifies libs because they think they won't get 'free' stuff anymore.
Oh, and btw.. there is no such thing as "free." Someone pays, and it's the working class who does so. Whether you make a lot of money, or little money, if you're a millionaire or your income is in the middle-class range.. YOU are the one who pays for the so-called 'free stuff' that Sanders and Clinton (she's a damn criminal) promises.
Okay, enough about that. My point is simple this: Liberals are rarely ever honest, rarely (if ever) do their own research to obtain facts before they go on the attack. I have no respect for people like that, and I never ever will.
One last thing.. SO many libs have switched parties because of Donald Trump. People are finally seeing the corruption from the left and aren't okay with it anymore. There's more to their switch, but I'm not going to go into all of that.
So... how about that for stepping across the threshold? I'm not afraid to talk about controversial topics, so put on your big girl/big boy panties and hang on! Or don't wear any panties at all...
Tuesday, January 12, 2016
Premature Wad-Blowing on Simon's Part. At least he apologized!
You know, it's a little representative what Simon did. Liberals have taken up the Simon mentality and have become the world's critics. Claiming 'tolerance' they ejaculate their hate upon anyone, anywhere, and for the dumbest reasons. Screw 'em. Haters suck. Maybe they need a little blue pill for their personality problems, because from where I'm sitting.. they all look flaccid, impotent, and bitter.
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If you've wandered here FIRST...
You may not know that I have other blogs. Look on the menu bar on the right and you'll find the links. Blogs are created and organized (for lack of a better word) for content. I tried, really tried to put everything in ONE place. OMG, what a freaking mess that was. So organization was the only way to maintain something that remotely appeared as, well, 'sanity.' Sanity is overrated, btw.
Anyway, there's going to be a few random entries here and there today as I get my bearings and prepare to spew away. *snort* I know where I'm going with this, and I'm prepared... are you? ;p
In the meantime, if you're curious, you can read the other blogs.
Yeah... this is going to take a minute....
Anyway, there's going to be a few random entries here and there today as I get my bearings and prepare to spew away. *snort* I know where I'm going with this, and I'm prepared... are you? ;p
In the meantime, if you're curious, you can read the other blogs.
Yeah... this is going to take a minute....
Growing Pains or Just Losing My Mind?
24 hours after creating yet another blog.. OMG, that's like 5 now!.. I'm sitting here questioning my sanity. Which I shouldn't, because I pride myself on being a little cray. ;p In some respects having multiple blogs with multiple purposes is like having a big house with each room having it's own theme. Or.. so this is how I justify it to myself anyway. Ha!
I can't promise it's going to be VASTLY different from any of the others, but I do want to take a lot of liberties here just the same. All political-correctness can be checked at the door, thank you very much.
I'm also having some difficulty with the design here (who freaking cares?!?), so it's bound to change. A lot. A LOT...
Okay... off to pretty this little panic room up!
;p
I can't promise it's going to be VASTLY different from any of the others, but I do want to take a lot of liberties here just the same. All political-correctness can be checked at the door, thank you very much.
I'm also having some difficulty with the design here (who freaking cares?!?), so it's bound to change. A lot. A LOT...
Okay... off to pretty this little panic room up!
;p
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Monday, January 11, 2016
The Crap I Spew
Okay, so here it is, the one and only place where I really will say just about anything that comes to mind. It won't matter if I'm completely full of shit, it's going to be about as raw as it gets. I honestly do need an outlet for the crazy, goofy, oddball, eccentric side of me. You know, that part very few people get or WANT to get.
Here, in THIS place, is the one place where PC may just get kicked on it's pearly little butt.
Hold onto your false teeth, Ethyl... this could be one helluva ride. ;p
Here, in THIS place, is the one place where PC may just get kicked on it's pearly little butt.
Hold onto your false teeth, Ethyl... this could be one helluva ride. ;p
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